Dear Upa,
You could not be more wrong. You are NOT a coward.
First of all, I don't think it is necessary at all for you to tell a bunch of strangers about your sexual orientation to have them remember you. Let's be honest, no straight person ever has to go up and say "I'm straight" to be remembered because that's what people automatically assume. Your preference for both genders is not the most memorable thing about you, trust me. You have much, much more to offer than that. You could blow them away with your amazing personality, and you do not need to put yourself in an uncomfortable position to feel recognised.
Also, I don't think being afraid of being different makes you a coward at all. It makes you human. It isn't your fault that we've been brought up in a heteronormative society that is the least tolerant thing on this planet. It crushes what it finds unfamiliar and would rather wallow in it's ignorance than celebrate the fact that the things that make us different are the most beautiful things about us.
So, don't for one second think that you're a coward for wanting to fit in. That's all of us. But I encourage you to understand that I think being able to love a person for who they are irrespective of their gender is beautiful. And there is so much love you have to offer. So maybe according to our Society's unrealistic expectations you are not normal, but so what? As Amazingphil had once said, "It's a good thing to be strange. Normalness leads to sadness."
And I am so glad you're happy.
The latter is something you REALLY don't have to worry about.
Bye for now,
Aditi.
You could not be more wrong. You are NOT a coward.
First of all, I don't think it is necessary at all for you to tell a bunch of strangers about your sexual orientation to have them remember you. Let's be honest, no straight person ever has to go up and say "I'm straight" to be remembered because that's what people automatically assume. Your preference for both genders is not the most memorable thing about you, trust me. You have much, much more to offer than that. You could blow them away with your amazing personality, and you do not need to put yourself in an uncomfortable position to feel recognised.
Also, I don't think being afraid of being different makes you a coward at all. It makes you human. It isn't your fault that we've been brought up in a heteronormative society that is the least tolerant thing on this planet. It crushes what it finds unfamiliar and would rather wallow in it's ignorance than celebrate the fact that the things that make us different are the most beautiful things about us.
So, don't for one second think that you're a coward for wanting to fit in. That's all of us. But I encourage you to understand that I think being able to love a person for who they are irrespective of their gender is beautiful. And there is so much love you have to offer. So maybe according to our Society's unrealistic expectations you are not normal, but so what? As Amazingphil had once said, "It's a good thing to be strange. Normalness leads to sadness."
And I am so glad you're happy.
The latter is something you REALLY don't have to worry about.
Bye for now,
Aditi.
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